Since I broke up with my boyfriend two weeks ago and was in a sad mood where I thought about the end of the world, I went into True, an expensive online dating – where out of curiosity I signed up only for the free trial, of course – to look for any matches in order to end my idle life for good, and to imagine what I had missed in the previous two years. Well, guess what. It did not help me at all because I found 0 matches for me. I was amazed, but then I thought, why not enjoying of having a real life? And besides, I did not want to make the mistake that I was desperate which I kind of did, but I did it because none of my friends were available to give me some sentimental support at the time, and I was hoping that True would give it to me. At the end, I got sick and tired of the shallow e-mail messages that True members sent me because I realized that my heart was not open for any of them. This should be obvious after a two year relationship, but today I want to have fun with friends only. The lame excuses of my friends of why they were unable to meet me were because they were all busy with their boyfriends, husbands, exams at college, travels, etc., so I had no other option until I went into the famous and overused craigslist. I found out that there is a platonic section (only friends) and posted an ad to hang out with any women who were available on Saturday night in order to meet at a nightclub or bar in order to celebrate my freedom. But guess what. Not a single girl contacted me except for a creepy man who did not read the ad “only for women”. But now, I feel much better because I know that someday that man will find me and will love me unconditionally. I don’t need to look for men anymore like I found my ex at a coffee shop, now the man needs to find me and I can patiently wait for him. I believe he will meet me someday, but for now, I need to enjoy being single again.
Monday, April 6, 2009
Love to Patiently Wait
Since I broke up with my boyfriend two weeks ago and was in a sad mood where I thought about the end of the world, I went into True, an expensive online dating – where out of curiosity I signed up only for the free trial, of course – to look for any matches in order to end my idle life for good, and to imagine what I had missed in the previous two years. Well, guess what. It did not help me at all because I found 0 matches for me. I was amazed, but then I thought, why not enjoying of having a real life? And besides, I did not want to make the mistake that I was desperate which I kind of did, but I did it because none of my friends were available to give me some sentimental support at the time, and I was hoping that True would give it to me. At the end, I got sick and tired of the shallow e-mail messages that True members sent me because I realized that my heart was not open for any of them. This should be obvious after a two year relationship, but today I want to have fun with friends only. The lame excuses of my friends of why they were unable to meet me were because they were all busy with their boyfriends, husbands, exams at college, travels, etc., so I had no other option until I went into the famous and overused craigslist. I found out that there is a platonic section (only friends) and posted an ad to hang out with any women who were available on Saturday night in order to meet at a nightclub or bar in order to celebrate my freedom. But guess what. Not a single girl contacted me except for a creepy man who did not read the ad “only for women”. But now, I feel much better because I know that someday that man will find me and will love me unconditionally. I don’t need to look for men anymore like I found my ex at a coffee shop, now the man needs to find me and I can patiently wait for him. I believe he will meet me someday, but for now, I need to enjoy being single again.
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The moment people stop looking, is the moment they are found. Ha - I don't know how true that is, but I do beleive that there a degree of truth to that. The moment a person is completely content with being single, and or being alone, is the moment when they are ready for a relationship, because they don't need someone to make them happy- Instead they can be happy non-co-depenedent people.
ReplyDeleteCraigslist is scary.
Ha ha! I know craigslist is scary that's why I chose True. But I think that for any girls to hang out with, craigslist is fine. They just need to show me their pictures, chat over over the phone and we can meet in a public places. Of course I won't go to their houses. As long as the meetings are in public places, I think it's perfectly fine.
ReplyDeleteMan, that really sucks. Not that this is probably where you're heads at, but my husband and I dated for seven years before tying the knot...and you know what? We broke up for a while. I think that two and three are the hardest years to get through...its the transition where you feel like the love is dried up, and nothing is exciting anymore, and you're both so used to each other that you feel like things used to be better. Of course they were--you both used to really like one another. =) It sounds silly, but sometimes you gotta stick through the hard. I say that not for this guy, necessarily, but for maybe the right guy.
ReplyDeletePlus...dating today SUCKS! It seems like all that's out there is those freaky craigslist guys. I'd TOTALLY be careful about the craigslist girls, too...just because I know some people who use that to find ladies to have group sex with...like wife swap type stuff. It sounds sick...because it is...but they're out there! You know whta I had some luck with once? This site where you meet excercise partners online--people who want to make friends to help spot them in weight lifting, or jog with them so they aren't alone at night jogging in the dark or whatever.
Feel better!